Another Tribute to Opinionated Man (They’re all the rage)

Yesterday Opinionated Man made his goodbye post in an unfortunate blow to the blogging world.

It seems he was pushed off due to harassment from a troll and was concerned for his family’s well-being. What’s really sad is that somebody would try to shut somebody down for speaking their mind, when the internet should be used for sharing new and different ideas, peacefully (in my opinion).

I’m glad to have enjoyed his blog and have met some great bloggers through him such as drhashtagbabyLucky OtterLindaGHill, The Oddity Writer and many others. His blog made WordPress more fun, exciting, and sociable for me and he left a great impression on me as a blogger. I learned from him and would like to put those things in practice myself. I hope to meet more bloggers this awesome as I keep going.

Thank you for your contribution to the “blogosphere”.

To Opinionated Man and all the other awesome bloggers out there,

Wil 🙂

Love/Hate Challenge

I was just nominated for the Love/Hate Challenge by Runaway Nuns and Leprechauns:

“Ok, so here are the instructions:

List 10 things I love and 10 things I hate – then nominate 10 fellow bloggers to do the same-”

So, here are the things I love and hate!


1. Tea (the best thing in life).

2. Trying New Things And Adventures (one leads to the other).

3. The Wall by Pink Floyd (it’s amazing).

4. Ridiculousness (Life)

5. Simplicity

6. New York

7. Whiskey (I use it as mouthwash in the morning).

8. Letters In The Mail (nobody sends them anymore! And that makes them so much more special now).

9. Independence

10. Egotistical People (I find them very entertaining, problematic though…)


1. Wind (The most aggravating thing in existence).

2. Chilled Butter (why!?!?!)

3. Peppers (disgusting).

4. Meter Maids (I don’t even have a car).

5. Starbucks (Unfortunately, they’re one of few places to get a decent cup of tea).

6. People Taking Things (including themselves) Too Seriously

7. Haters

8. Greetings (I think eye-contact should be enough most of the time, none when in large groups).

9. Holidays

10. Kelly Clarkson

I Nominate:

1. drhashtagbaby

2. keromonkey

3. Marcus

4. Rob Goldstein

5. Rich Paschall

6. NiaLisabeth

7. Stephany T

8. missymichaels452

9. Lucky Otter

10. Oscar Alejandro Plascencia


The Evolutionary Advantage of Homosexuality

The Evolutionary Advantage of Homosexuality

Looking at our evolutionary history, viewing sexuality as a social act and recognizing its fluidity and spectrum gives a perspective that helps to explain homosexuality as natural. This also gives a different perspective on female sexuality, polygamy, promiscuity and the variety of sexual practices in the world. The reason gay and other non-reproductive sex would likely exist is because sex evolved into a social act. As a social act, sex would have been advantageous during our development as a species, and gender would not matter.

Homosexuality is too common and universal to be an unnatural phenomenon. By some estimates, it exists in about 10% of the human population and has been considered normal and expected of people in many societies throughout history—Ancient Greece and Feudal Japan for instance. Homosexuality is also very common in animals, who are indifferent to their own sexuality and the sexuality of others. In humans, Kinsey established that there is a sexuality spectrum, ranging from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual, with most people falling somewhere in the middle. Why is there this variation?

Going by the theory of evolution and natural selection, pervasive traits in a species are generally there for a reason because advantageous traits that help members of a species survive and reproduce stay and disadvantageous ones die out. The puzzling thing about homosexuality is that it seems that it would destroy itself by discouraging reproduction. But it has prevailed, so there must be a good reason for it. We are driven to do and pleased by the things which in a primitive world would promote our survival and propagation. Therefore eating is enjoyable, sheltering ourselves is enjoyable, having sex is enjoyable. We need the instinctual drives and feelings of reward to keep our species going on both an individual and group level. These instincts and traits have been hard-wired in us by the very gradual process of evolution by natural selection that causes species to develop and change over time, creating the vast diversity seen in our world. Evolution favors that diversity as it leads to new opportunities for life and endows it with resilience.

Changes in species generally happen over the course of many generations. For instance, giraffes didn’t just suddenly mutate into having long necks. The giraffe predecessors had, like any sexually reproducing species, variations among its members, with some being slightly better suited to reaching higher up food sources by being slightly taller. Those with the longest necks were better adapted to their environment than their kin and survived and reproduced more, giving birth to offspring with a tendency toward a long neck. Eventually, thanks to the collective of their unique variations, they developed long necks and became a different species entirely, with their own niche on the African plains.

Our own species developed by the same evolutionary process, and we are the product of that. Our lives are shaped by modern times, but our basic instincts and drives are our foundation. As a species, we developed most of these before we developed language and custom. And it is in our developmental era that we need to look to see where our drives come from. There we will likely find the origins of human sexuality and homosexuality, a strange constant of human life.

Sexual reproduction thrived despite the risk of not finding a mate because it creates genetic variation and diversity. But sex itself is not strictly reproductive in all species. In many species that’s the case. For instance, with many fish, such as salmon or catfish, there is no copulation. The females lay eggs to be fertilized externally by the males. With rabbits, there is copulation but no extended relationship. For these species, it isn’t necessary to go beyond that. Their sexual drives are focused on efficiency in creating offspring. But many social species are more sexually complex.

The complicated, inefficient way that humans have sex demonstrates that there is more to it than just child-bearing. We court each other, flirt, get to know each other first, try to find common ground and compatibility and then we move on to the actual sex. Sex itself is also complex–not strictly copulation, but kissing, foreplay, cuddling and everything you can imagine for yourselves. We frequently exhibit monogamy, something relatively uncommon among the Earth’s species, but at the same time, have a serious difficulty adhering to it. Even though we have social norms discouraging it, promiscuity and drive to have sex with multiple partners over a lifetime are extremely common, as is homosexuality. Why do people have such a hard time following these anti-sex social norms? Because they’re unnatural. Sexual variety is ingrained and built-in to us from pre-historic times.

For humans, sex develops strong positive feelings of love, bonding and friendliness. It is a generally accepted idea that men and women develop these loving feelings toward each other, encouraging some degree of monogamy in order to benefit the offspring that may result from sex, as it would tend to keep the fathers around. The preliminary courtship helps to determine if a potential partner would be a good match, and the bodily exploration is a great way to determine your partner’s state of health and get to know them better. This would be especially true during a time when there was no language to communicate with. People who had this positive, loving reaction to sex would have an advantage, and so would their offspring. So the development of love’s connection to sex was a great step forward for us.

Despite these loving feelings, humans are not entirely monogamous. These feelings can and do extend to multiple people. In primitive societies without the rules created by language, people were more promiscuous. Human promiscuity tends to be attributed to the drive to “spread seed”, but this misogynistic concept doesn’t take female sexuality into account. Female sexuality can’t be explained this way because their ability to procreate is limited, yet they don’t lose their drive when pregnant. Another possible motivation behind promiscuity that extends to homosexuality is that sex developed as a social act that helped keep primitive societies together. It was a social lubricant and a way of communication. As a social act, gender would be irrelevant and sex would be a great way of creating bonds, (or caveman style friends.)

This is exhibited in ape societies such as chimpanzees and bonobos, our closest genetic relatives. Both are very promiscuous, and bonobos are especially notable in that they are completely bisexual and constantly use sex as a social lubricant. The bonobos are also very peaceful. They choose to have sex over fighting. For early humans, sex probably functioned like it does for the bonobos, reducing aggression and encouraging cooperation.

If inherited, homosexuality has to be passed on heterosexually. We all have a mix of genes giving us each our individual traits and differences, such as short and tall, or a predisposition to want sex with people of a certain gender. Likely, there is not one gene for homosexuality; it is part of this mixture of genes and predispositions. That would help explain why there is a sexuality spectrum, why most people fall somewhere in the middle, and why, if a society expects bisexuality, people can adapt.

If sex developed to create bonds between opposite-sex parents for the sake of the offspring, that bonding quality would have extended to other partners as well, regardless of gender. Promiscuity and bisexuality would have been advantageous for propagation and also for developing the bonds that would help a person and their offspring’s survival. An individual who had sexual preferences for both genders would have the option to establish connections with more varied partners, thus creating a wider network. This popularity would give him a survival advantage and potentially more chances to mate. This one’s offspring would have the trait and they would inherit the same advantage. Eventually, after many generations, the trait would more or less pervade the group, with some having more of the “gay” trait than others. As the concentration of the gay traits increased, eventually there may be some that get so many that they don’t reproduce at all, limiting and balancing the trait. Those that get “too many” of these “gay genes” curb its propagation but they won’t die out because they come in combination with “straight genes.” Therefore, bisexuality dominates, generally leaning toward heterosexuality. Additionally, the total homosexuals won’t burden the group with offspring, sacrificing their own genes but helping their gene-sharing kin survive, much like worker bees do.

Homosexuality is a natural tendency that has evolved into humanity and other species due to the social advantages it provided in early times. Viewing sexuality as a social act and recognizing its fluidity and spectrum gives a perspective that helps to explain homosexuality as natural. This also gives a different perspective on female sexuality, polygamy, promiscuity and the variety of sexual practices in the world.

Wil and The Doctor (who wishes to remain anonymous)

P.S. You may post any relevant links you’d like. Comments, suggestions and sharing are welcome 🙂


I’m just a new little blogger and this is now only my sixth post. Already I’ve been attacked by a troll.

All I did was defend another blogger’s right to freedom of speech and from harassment. I’m just some guy who started a blog.

The blogger I defended is “Opinionated Man“. He has some really great material and is one of the most worthwhile blogs I follow so far. I don’t agree with everything he has to say, but so what? He seems like a great guy. Everyone has their own opinions and should be allowed that. I highly recommend checking him out.

Poor, cruel blog world :’-(


Homosexuality is Natural

“…people who think that gays and lesbians are born that way are also more likely to support gay rights.”

-Neuroscientist Simon LeVay

I was raised Baptist and it really messed me up. It was a bad enough experience as a child, but when I started liking boys I had a serious problem and I internalized it because I believed it was wrong and unnatural. I’m not one to accept something without an explanation, so eventually decided that I had a mental illness. I still believed it after I came out of the closet and basically accepted that I was gay, sick or not. It’s an awful way to feel about yourself.

I got over the “it’s wrong because God says so” concept (not soon enough because it was so drilled into me), but being a curious person, I did lots of research on the topic and found that there is good reason to believe it is a natural phenomenon. For instance, homosexuality is very common in very many animal species. There have also been many societies where homosexuality/bisexuality has been the norm, such as ancient Greece, ancient China, feudal Japan, the modern Sambia people, and many more. For entire societies to actually expect homosexual practices from their members, it would have to be more or less natural.

There are also several good scientific theories for how homosexuality could have evolved. There’s the “gay uncle theory” suggesting that gays could have passed on their “gay genes” indirectly by not burdening their societies with their own offspring, therefore being useful in caring for their families’ offspring who would share some of their genes. There’s also the “social bonds” theory, suggesting that homosexuality provided an advantage by helping the homosexuals create better social bonds, aka friendships. I have a theory myself based on these ideas, but I’ll post that later.

It would be great to make more people aware of what information is out there to help change public opinion in favor of gay rights and to help other people struggling with their sexuality. I hope I can connect with others who are interested in working on that via this blog, so if you are, please contact me, I’d like to be more of an activist and get to know more like-minded people.



Follow up-

My First Poetry Slam

My first poetry slam was at a local arts venue with about 40-60 people. I went with a friend just to watch, but we were urged to put our names in to read our own poetry. I was not a poet, but part of me wanted to be, so I signed up not knowing what I would say. I was very nervous, but by the time we had taken our seats, I knew exactly what poem I would go with. It was short and easy to remember, and I felt it told a lot about me. Once I had committed to it, there was no going back. No matter how nervous I felt.

The lights went out except for the spotlight on the stage. The first poem was bland and the second was light-hearted. Not so intimidating, though at the time I was definitely still not beyond stage fright (I’ve stood on many stages visibly shaking). The next guy played a funny song about how hipster his ex was on his guitar. I hoped I could, some day, be that good. I asked them to push my name a little lower on the list to work up some courage. But then the mood shifted; the poets and entire atmosphere of the room became very dark and heavy. This was a serious problem for me. I asked to be pushed down some more so the air could clear a bit.

The poems and spoken words were horrifying. Depression, suicide, racism, sexism, death, rape, anger and everything awful were now the themes of every single one. What started as passionate poetry intensified with each successive performer until eventually they were so taken by the spirit of it all that they were yelling and crying. Oh my God. How am I going to go up there now? How will my amateur poem be received by a crowd so moved? I couldn’t get a break, the longer I waited, the worse it got. I didn’t want to be that last guy, but it was getting climactically intense. Meanwhile, the organizers were really pressuring me to go. Eventually I was going to have to say my piece, but I was terrified. I didn’t know how they would take what I had to say. I had to face the fact that the mood might not get easier. So after a particularly moving spoken word-I went up.

I tried going slow, but in reality I’m told I didn’t. I got to the mic and took a deep breath in-and then out. But then I had no breath to speak with and breathed in extra deep. It was a dramatic and awkward delay. I held my breath and looked at all the enraptured spectators, waiting for the next powerful piece of emotion and imagery to grab their souls. After a long pause, I went for it, gripping the mic as tightly as I could to stabilize myself.

“Roses are red, violets are red, your garden’s on fire”

The nearly dead silence was barely brought back to life with a couple of chuckles. I ran off the stage.

Starbucks Discrimination

Dear Bloggary,

A few years ago, I got a great opportunity at a time when I was really turning my life around at 20 years old. It was a new job, where I was given an opportunity to prove myself by the greatest manager who ever lived-Erin. She told me not to steal anything or do anything crazy, to which I agreed, and taught me everything about how to do my job well. I became an excellent employee with job skills and work ethic that would take me to better places in the future. Eventually, even after she left, I made my way up to basically Assistant Manager, and after almost a year and a half, left on my own, remaining friends with Erin and friendly with a couple of the other GM’s I worked under during that time. I had done a very good job-and had witnesses.

More than three years later, I decided I wanted a temporary job during the holiday season at the mall, a short walk from home. I found out Teavana was hiring, and as I had enjoyed working there and loved the product, I applied. I went in and had a brief discussion with the very friendly manager, who asked if my previous managers would vouch for me. “Yes, definitely.” “Okay great, fill out an application online.”  I went home, did so, and about an hour later, she called me.

The gist of the conversation was “You’re hired! When can you start?” I didn’t even have to interview. It was the easiest job acquisition ever. We had a nice, pleasant, excited conversation, and at the end she told me that all we needed next was for me to fill out the form for a background check. Well, I explained, “I can’t pass a background check.” I explained that as a teenager I had gotten myself into drugs and trouble, but had long since turned things around and had a great resume and extensive references to prove it. She seemed understanding and accepting-it had been 6 ½ years, I’d worked there since, and she had just gotten “a rave review” from a previous manager whom she knew personally. We had a longer discussion,  during which she convinced me she would do her best. But she told me that Teavana was a very different place than when I had worked there-in the time I was gone, they’d been acquired by Starbucks and she didn’t know if that would be okay anymore. She told me she’d get back to me in two days after talking to her boss.

I was left in suspense. During that time, I did a little research and found other stories even less fair than mine such as this one Due to this research, I was worried, despite everyone I knew reassuring me it couldn’t possibly be a problem.

When she called me back, it turned out there was nothing she could do. And yes, I believe she tried and am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt based on the conversation we had.

I’m pretty upset, and it’s a loss to myself, the manager and the company. It didn’t make sense for them to not hire me back on this basis, having already worked there before and with an even greater passage of time on my side. This was thoughtless discrimination when an exception should have been made.

Who I am and why I’m here


I’m Wil. I used to do drugs, now I drink tea. I involve myself with social justice issues and non-profit work. I love adventures and trying new things. Also seeking enlightenment.

I am here to express myself as an attempt at contributing to human thought and my own enrichment.

I am publishing online, rather than just keeping a journal because a journal won’t affect much by itself. Online, I can hopefully enrich others’ lives, and allow others to give me perspective.

I would like to write about things from my own life that could be helpful to others, and I would love to connect with people who work, or would like to work toward general personal and world betterment. I really hope this blog and the people I may meet through it can have some positive effect on the state of the world.